In a world full of Pinterest ideas, how to make your wedding unique to you
How to spice up your big day and break away from tradition.
Are you having a June wedding? What’s your color scheme? Wait, you don’t want a traditional church wedding? These are just a few of the hundreds of intrusive questions a newly engaged couple might face. The word tradition made me think of our community in Abbott Events and how couples, once engaged, have to face a big decision. “Are we going to have a traditional or non-traditional wedding?” I know what you may be wondering, “What is Grandma going to think if we go with the non-traditional route?” Don’t panic, I am here to help. When it comes down to implementing unique touches in your wedding, let's take it slow and start with two, the cake and the wedding party.
(Photo by Felicia the Photographer)
As Marie Antoinette once said, "Let them eat cake", but what if you don't like cake? Of course you can have cake if you want; you get to choose the style, the flavor, and for the grand finale shove it in your significant other's face. The bright side of breaking away from tradition are the endless possibilities. Some couples have gone the donut route, ice cream, cheesecake, cupcakes, cookies (shout out to the Italian’s for some epic cookie tables) or even a candy table where guests fill up little bags of candy and take home to devour after a few too many cocktails.
(Photos by Alyssa Barletter)
Now, personally I prefer savory over sweet. I’ve seen a cheese wheel cake recently and it spoke to my soul. The couple cuts the cheese (yes I giggled after I wrote that) just like they would a traditional wedding cake and then the caterer performs their magic and produces a huge charcuterie board for guests to devour. Find me a someone who doesn’t love a giant board of meats and cheeses.
While the couple is the most important part of the wedding, half the fun is choosing who will be celebrating your big day serving as bridesmaids and groomsmen. Let’s start with siblings, which are typically the easiest way to select your bridesmaids and groomsmen. If they are younger than you they can be junior bridesmaids or ushers. If they are close enough in age give them the full blown honor. Next stop on the wedding party train are your friends. When selecting your friends remember that this is not your attempt to make everyone “best friends”, just take into consideration that if you have “that one friend” who can be a bit abrasive or confrontational, they may not be the best fit.
(Photo by The Bold Americana)
Now if you really want to confuse your grandma you can choose to have a mixed gender wedding party. Don’t think brides haven’t considered making their brothers a “bridesman” or a groom making his sister a “groomslady”. Whoever you end up choosing to stand by your sides, consider a few details. Remember to be mindful of personalities, budget, and reliability; once these are addressed you have no choice but to truly enjoy your big day.
I could go on and on when it comes to bringing your own unique flare to your big day. What I want couples to take away from this post is that no matter what kind of dessert you serve, or who is standing by your sides, remember why you have chosen to be married and that it’s okay be a little selfish for one day, trust me, grandma can only hold a grudge for so long.
As always, love is love,